Love is patient

2016-09-11 08:52

Our ceremony followed the Catholic standard—a reading from the Old Testament, a reading from the New Testament, followed by a gospel, homily, and Holy Communion.

Choosing the readings was sort of a no brainer. Our Pre-Cana class provided a booklet with options for each selection and, honestly, we felt it was kind of slim pickin’s. The dynamic between a husband and wife has changed drastically from the biblical times and I wasn’t comfortable choosing a reading that said, “Woman, obey your husband.” But in each category we found at least one passage that resonated with us and we felt the program we put together was a true representation of us as a couple.

For the first reading, we chose Genesis 2:18-24 which basically tells the tale of God creating a woman from man’s rib so that he might have a suitable partner in life. An excerpt reads,

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.

Kind of gross when you think about it,香港开马资科, but I like the sentiment that the man and woman share one body and soul.

The responsorial psalm we chose was, “Blest are those who love you.” This was sung as a chorus after several verses, led by our organist and vocalist. The blessing was not only meant for Mr. S and me, but for all our guests—we know how much they love us and celebrating our marriage wouldn’t have been the same without all of them there.

For the second reading we chose the extremely popular 1 Corinthians 12:31-13, which famously reads (again, just an excerpt),

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

I think this passage has been read at every Catholic wedding I’ve been to,湖滨小学德育处, but to me, it never gets old. I could hear/read it a thousand times and I would still think it the most beautiful and powerful description of love that I’ve ever heard.

The gospel reading we selected was a short and sweet one (to my dismay while hoping our rings would make it in time for the ring exchange): John 15:9-12. It’s so short, I don’t even mind writing out the whole thing here:

Jesus said to his disciples: “As the Father loves me, so I also love you. Remain in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and remain in his love. “I have told you this so that my joy might be in you and your joy might be complete. This is my commandment: love one another as I love you.”

After the gospel, Father Ed gave a short homily which essentially summarizes and provides a theme for each mass’s readings and gospel. Truthfully, this part of the ceremony is a little fuzzy to me—not sure if it was because I was distracted with thoughts of our missing rings or because I just generally have a bad memory, but all I can remember is that the gist of Father Ed’s homily was that love is at the center of all things and that a wedding is not only a celebration of the couple, but also a celebration of the love shown to us by our friends and family in attendance.

Following the homily were the exchange of someone else’s rings and our vows. I guess I missed the part where there are two ways to exchange vows. The first (and what I was expecting because that’s how we practiced it in our Pre-Cana class) was to repeat each line after the priest. “I, Squid Squidson take you Mr. S to be my husband. I promise this, I promise that, etc.” But the other option (which Father Ed employed) was for the priest to read the vows posed as a question to the bride and groom: “Do you Squid Squidson take Mr. S to be your husband? Do you promise this and promise that, etc.?” The only bit we had to say in response was, “I do.” I was a little disappointed that we didn’t recite our vows to each other (I was kind of looking forward to it), so lesson learned: ask your priest how the vows will be done if you care about that kind of thing.

Before being proclaimed a newly minted husband and wife, we did our Filipino traditions. Father Ed called Mr. S and I to the front of the church and had us face the congregation (something he likes to do for the photo ops he says). It was a little awkward to be standing there under the bright lights facing all our guests, but it did give a nice view for our photographers and made the whole thing a bit more interactive with everyone. (Guests later commented that they really appreciated the gesture as it made them feel more included in the ceremony.) Father Ed described each tradition using the blurb written in our programs. Had I known that was going to be his reference, I would have beefed up the information section on what each item symbolized, but overall it was sufficient.

Up first were the arras, or coins, which I think we did wrong… Oops. Technically the groom is supposed to present the coins to his bride—like a handoff of some sort. But we never practiced this in rehearsal (why, I have no idea, rushing to dinner I suppose…) and so the coins just sat in their glass box off to the side while Father Ed explained that they represent our commitment to mutually contributing to our relationship, children, and community.

At least they looked good!

The veil ceremony was next, symbolizing God’s presence, our union, and being “clothed as one.” MOH Dr. K and GM J (who was best man) draped the veil over my head and Mr. S’s shoulders, gently pinning the veil in place with straight pins. Mr. S and I stayed very still so that (1) the veil wouldn’t fall off and (2) we wouldn’t accidentally get pricked by the straight pin.

BM A and GM DM then looped the silk figure eight-shaped cord over our heads, representing the couple’s bond. (The cord and veil were the same ones used at my parents wedding and our arras were antique Filipino-American coins from the early-mid 1900s.)

We only had the cord and veil on us for a few minutes—just long enough for Father Ed to finish reading the descriptions from our programs and for our photographer and guests to snap some pictures.

Our bridesmaids and groomsmen then removed the cord and veil in reverse order of how they were put on.

The rest of the mass followed per usual—Lord’s Prayer, sign of peace, and Holy Communion.

I’m quite sure there was someone (out of frame) intended for my kissing duck face (we hope).

The only slight and yet significant change was that prior to saying our vows, Mr. S and I sat on opposite sides of the pew but, after the exchange of rings and vows, Father Ed instructed us to sit together, on the same side, officially as husband and wife.

What cultural traditions did you incorporate into your ceremony? Did anyone else face the congregation during your ceremony?

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